When couples agree to file for divorce, it can be the start of a long, dark process. We always reiterate to our clients that it can, and will get better. There is a way through this, and by providing divorce counseling we can help to you to move on.
The way to get through a divorce is to not get trapped in the process, the legal system, your partner, or in animosity towards them. The danger of going through this process is that you can focus too much on your departing partner, and this will keep you stuck on the pain of losing the person, and not having them with you.
During the divorce we help you to focus more on yourself, and starting your new life so that you can be better, and stronger. We will help you to find a fresher outlook, and for some people divorce can help them become better, and through therapy, they can finally understand who they are, and what they want in life.
Having power and control over yourself gives you the freedom to develop what you need to create for yourself. Sometimes getting lost in the anger keeps you stuck in what the other person did or did not do for you, instead of what you need to do for yourself.
Happiness is a byproduct of you coming back to yourself. The way through the divorce is finding your sense of self, and the new possibility of yourself. Counseling can help walk you through the process, and keep you from the negative trap of divorce. Eventually, you will want to begin another relationship in which you can use what you have learned through us helping you, and have a better relationship with new rules and expectations.
Our ability to feel relaxed during divorce can be aided by the adoption of a healthy routine, getting plenty of sleep, a healthy diet, enough exercise and through techniques such as meditation that help reduce stress.
We can help you to work on establishing a good routine for yourself. It can also help to talk to a therapist, because sometimes there can be an underlying reason for our lack of ease with the divorce.